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Submitted by ethanfburke on Sat, 2010-05-22 15:07
When a guy is sending mixed signals that are making you confused, anxious, stressed or unhappy, it can seem like the easiest way to feel better is to decipher the signals, so you know what he really wants. But there is another choice. What if, instead of trying to figure out what he wants, you refocus on what you want -- and move forward that way? In other words, if you decide you can't deal with a guy who is always saying one thing and doing another, or taking one step toward you and two steps away, you might just be ready to move on, regardless of what's going on in his head. On the other hand, if you decide he's worth a little more waiting around to see if he gets things figured out, you can set a time limit for yourself and see what happens. But either way, the focus is off what he wants, and on you -- where it should be in this situation.
