Friendly but no-nonsense relationship and dating advice for women in their 20s and 30s, from the guy perspective. Come back for biweekly posts and "tips of the week." Skip to the advice...
First and foremost, "The Guy Perspective" is meant to be useful. It might be interesting to read about in a purely psychological context, but that’s not why I’m writing this blog. I’m sharing this knowledge so you can apply it to your life in some way.
Because I want you to use this blog in your own life, I’m setting it up to be as practical as possible. In each post, you will get a heavy dose of guy perspective, but I’ll also throw in regular, practical tips about how you can apply that perspective to your own life. Of course, I could just keep feeding you different ways that “he’s just not that into you,” but that’s already been done. Instead, I want to take it a step further: I want to show you how you can use this inside information.
This is not a manual on how to please a guy. It’s not an instruction sheet about how to look or talk or act exactly the way he wants you to. Instead, from the guy perspective, I’d like to show you a more intelligent, confident, and ultimately faster way to be happy in the dating world, and maybe -- just maybe -- find the man of your dreams.
You might wonder, rightfully, who I am to be writing about this. The bottom line is I’m just a guy. A guy who spent most of the last decade in the dating scene, a guy who has had endless conversations about dating with endless friends and acquaintances (both male and female), and, of course, a guy who has taken part in his share of dates. Not just dates, of course: number getting, number giving, committed relationships, one night encounters, hazy friendships, things that should have been but weren’t, things that shouldn’t have been but were, long-distance dating, short-distance benefits, cohabitation, booty calls, flirty e-mails, awkward voicemails . . . the whole nine. But maybe most importantly, I'm one of those guys whose friends – girls and guys – have often come to for thoughtful, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
So is this blog for you?
If you are a straight, single woman in your twenties or thirties, intelligent and attractive and wondering why that hasn’t already landed you the right guy, then yes, this blog is probably for you. You don’t have to be depressed or feeling sorry for yourself or ready to forget my entire half of the human species (although you might have those days). You just need to be curious and ready for some practical, take-it-or-leave-it advice from the other side.
Still not convinced?
No problem. Many people find their way on their own, and I hope you will too. Fortunately, if things don’t work out, you’re welcome back. This blog is not a guy, and it will still be here.